I don’t know about you, but I’m the type of person who doesn’t like to waste my time. Whether it’s being productive on Sundays or getting my homework done before even leaving school, wasting time is just not an option for me.
That includes my love life.
Even when I was younger, during my high school years, I would go on a date with the idea that one day I was going to get married and, “Who knows? Maybe he could be ‘The One.'”
Is that crazy? Ahaha Being so young and thinking that? Am I the only one? Let me know in the comments!
When I was 17 I thought I finally found ‘The One.’ I met him one summer when I went to Italy. He was 8 years older than me, which I thought was romantic…now looking back, it’s actually kind of creepy. We dated for a bit over two years until I realized we wouldn’t last forever.
On multiple occasions I would take the huge step and hint to him about marriage. He would either make a joke of it or plain out say, “Non mi piace guardare troppo nel futuro.” Meaning, “I don’t like to look too far into the future.”
The first time, I brushed it off with a bad feeling in my gut. The second, I did the same. It wasn’t until over 2 years went by that I finally understood that this guy was not going to marry me!
So, I made the managerial decision to break up with him during Christmas break and move on.
I returned to school for the spring semester. I went to math class and did what all young singles do at the beginning of the semester: I looked around to see if there were any cute guys in my class hahaha. There was one but he didn’t really seem to notice me so I just kept to myself. Especially since I didn’t want to jump into another relationship.
The days went by and that cute guy ended up sitting next to me. Random. I know. He started asking me to help him on certain problems in class and we got to talking. His name was Lucas.
One day after class I went to the cafeteria to get something to eat and I noticed that he was there too. I decided not to sit down next to him because I didn’t want to give him the wrong idea. So, I sat by myself.
15 minutes later he snuck up behind me and sat down next to me, happily surprising me.
We ate our lunch together and got to talking. We sat there for the next three hours! And the convo got deep.
We talked about basically anything and everything important in life: Past relationships, future goals, childhood stories, how many children we see ourselves having, God and, of course, the, “Do you see yourself getting married?” question.
We had “The Convo” before we even started dating.
Before we even kissed
Before we even said, “I Love you.”
I told him that, “I’m not looking for a relationship, but if you want we can be friends.” He was relieved because he felt the same way. Ahhhh perfect.
We started a beautiful friendship that eventually transitioned into a beautiful relationship.
There were no secrets hidden, no questions that weren’t asked and no answers that weren’t given. I knew exactly what I was getting into with no thought of, “I wonder what his view of marriage is?”
I hope that this post inspires you to keep it real with your significant other and to never settle for less in your relationship. Don’t forget to subscribe!